Minnesota Wedding Photographer | 25 Years

October 04, 2015  •  5 Comments

Twenty-Five Years

    Wow, I can't believe, it's been 25 years.  I've been married 25 years!!  I want to scream it from the rooftops!  In this day and age, it's pretty rare to get to 15 years, but 25 years?!! According to the 2010 census, only about 34% of married couples in the United States make it to the 25 year mark.  I AM ONE OF THEM!!

    Here's my love story.  Mike and I met at work, he thought I was hot (and even told the boss to hire me because I was cute).  I thought he was stuck up and arrogant, and to be honest, I did NOT like him.  Well, that's not completely true.  I liked two things about him. 1) He was a tri-athlete and he had AMAZING leg muscles; and 2)  He has, and always will have, the most beautiful blue eyes with those long, long lashes, that girls would kill for.

   Long story short, I messed up at work, and I promised to take him to Lake Michigan if he didn't tell a soul.  One and done, went to the beach for the day, and I dumped him off and went out with friends that night...  Oh, yeah, he reminded me that I promised him dinner.  Really?  a second date?  Yep, and that's when it happened.  Driving to Saugatuck and Holland for the day, ALL that time talking and a perfect boat cruise to watch the sunset, and I fell...  Hook, line and sinker...  Within two weeks, I knew I was going to spend the rest of my life with him or die trying.

   Married life isn't easy the way they make it look in the movies.  It's hard, and I'm not an easy person.  I'm independent and I don't do well relying on other people, especially the ones who are closest to me.  I'm extroverted and outgoing.  Mike is introverted and reserved.  I LOVE dancing; Mike likes the movies.  I LOVE attention, Mike avoids it.

  On our wedding day, I was a basket case.  Nervous as all get out.  About to get married on my maternal grandparents' wedding anniversary, and 10 days from moving across the country and away from everything, and everybody I knew and love.

  We have survived, and I'll be honest, the majority of the problems that have existed in my marriage have been caused by me.  Insecure and afraid to be happy, I often need attention despite my appearance as a strong woman.  And my worse sin?  Being afraid to be truly happy while also being afraid to be deeply hurt, so I strike first.  It's easier for me to go through life mad than to go through life broken.

   Two kids, 2 houses, and 2 dogs later, I'm still learning to be fully accepting of love.  I look at this man, and I think, "Wow, how did I get so lucky to get this man?" (and sometimes, how did he get so unlucky to get me?!!!)  I truly believe that life works out the way it's meant to, so I guess this is where I'm meant to be.

    Besides, my dad told Mike on our wedding day, "You take her, you keep her"  Mike wasn't my first love, but he's my last, and in the big scheme of life, isn't THAT what's important?

 

 

 


Comments

lexi(non-registered)
This is so sweet! Congratulations!!
Katie(non-registered)
Congratulations! What a wonderful milestone!!
Monique(non-registered)
Congratulations to you both. :D
Adrienne(non-registered)
How great! Congrats! Love the photos!
Camille(non-registered)
Wow that's amazing! Congrats :)
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